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31 August 2010 ~ View Comments

Re-thinking humankind.

This 10 minute video is intriguing and compelling. The basic premise is that we are not hardwired for self interest and aggression. Rather we are softwired for kindness, compassion, and connection.

And holy crap! Who knew that all 6.5 billion human beings came from one woman and one man??

Seriously. That means that everyone of us – including that kid you hated in elementary school and my crack head neighbors – belong to the same family.

Take the time to watch this. You won’t be sorry.

I’d love to know what you think!

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13 August 2010 ~ View Comments

Why aren’t kids barefoot anymore?

When I was a kid, I could hardly wait to get out of my shoes every summer. I would get one pair of huge new shoes at the beginning of the school year. By the end of the year came around, the shoes were pretty broken down and small.

No matter! It was barefoot season.

The very first thing I would do is try to get my feet ready for a season of hot pavement and cement.  I did this by painfully walking across the gravel in my parents front yard. After a few days, my callouses were building and my feet were ready. Any moment I wasn’t in summer school or church, I was barefoot.

And why not? It was summer!

When I grew older, and started working, I was able to buy my own shoes. I wore anything I could slip on or take off at a moments notice. Clogs were handy. Even dress shoes worked. Seriously. Shoes were camouflage, something I wore when someone was around but discarded the moment they left. This continued through college and my first jobs.

I’ve been barefoot almost everywhere. Even if I wore shoes, I was just as likely to slip them off to let my feet breathe.

I never wore shoes until I moved to Colorado. Outside of athletic socks, I never owned a pair of socks until I moved to Colorado.

Recently, I was wandering down our sidewalk with Rose, our dog, when the neighbor’s eight year old said the universal Colorado shoe call:

“Where are your shoes?”

“In the closet.” Without thinking, I gave the response I give to my husband, father-in-law and now this eight year old kid.

Then it hit me. This is a eight year old kid. It’s summer. Why was he wearing shoes?? What could possibly be wrong with him? I must have gawked because he looked a little puzzled.

“No really,” he said. “Why aren’t you wearing shoes?”

“I love the way the cement feels on my feet,” I said. “Why are you wearing shoes?”

He looked at me as if he’d never considered the idea. He looked down at his feet then back at me.

“Try it,” I said and wandered into our house.

It gives me great joy to tell you that I’ve seen him barefoot ever since then.  Barefoot riding his bike. Barefoot wandering down the pavement. Barefoot on the grass. You name it, the kid’s caught the bug.

But the entire experience gave me pause.

Why aren’t kids barefoot anymore?

I have a lot of other thoughts about this, but rather than complicate the issue, I put this question out to the world.

Why aren’t kids barefoot anymore?

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06 August 2010 ~ Comments Off

5 things that caught my eye this week

Having sent Who I am, the third Fey book, and sent it off to the proof readers, I have been cruising around the web. Here’s a few things that caught my eye.

1. As a follow up to last weeks post about the disgusting cowardice of the Republican party, Representative Andrew Weiner discusses why he was so angry. There’s not much we can do about this bill now. There feels like there’s not much we can do about the grid lock in Congress over reasonable issues. The Republican’s are holding until election day in the hopes of changing Congress. We can only hope they are not satisfied.

2. This is an interesting article in the Financial Times about the Crisis of the Middle Class. This is not a new story. The War on the Middle Class
was published in 2006. What’s interesting about this article is how it relates issues like the Tea Party to the crisis of the Middle Class. I posted this link to Twitter and was surprised to hear from a number of people overseas. They were surprised at this look at America’s middle class.

3. This is a gorgeous gallery of photos. “Taking old World War II photos, Russian photographer Sergey Larenkov carefully photoshops them over more recent shots to make the past come alive. Not only do we get to experience places like Berlin, Prague, and Vienna in ways we could have never imagined, more importantly, we are able to appreciate our shared history in a whole new and unbelievably meaningful way,” says Alice. Here’s my favorite.

4. While we’re on photos, this was posted by Drew Carey on Twitter. In celebration of the Federal Court Judge Vaughn Walker’s decision to overturn California’s ban on gay marriage, I share:

5. I can’t find a link to this. I was sent this Haiti update from SOS-Children’s Villages. (If you haven’t looked into SOS-Children’s Villages, they are an amazing charity.) SOS Children’s Villages had been in Haiti a long time prior to the earthquake. When the news media looked for legitimate resources, they went to SOS Children’s Villages. Here is their report about Haiti five months later:

HAITI:  FIVE MONTHS AFTER THE EARTHQUAKE

June, 2010

On January 13, 2010, a 7.0 magnitude earthquake hit Haiti and destroyed thousands of buildings and hundreds of thousands more lives.  Our SOS Village of Santo, near Port-au-Prince, was spared.  There, over 200 orphans were already living prior to the earthquake, safely and well taken care of in SOS houses in SOS families.  Good construction made all the difference and left all our facilities standing.  The SOS Village subsequently has become a haven for other children who have lost their parents.  We currently have custody of over 500 children for whom we still search for family members; we have 800 students in our primary and secondary schools.

The Phases of Haiti Relief

What follows below is a description of the phases of SOS relief efforts.  Budgets will be refined over time as fundraising continues and needs change.

Phase I:  Basic survival, water and sanitation, food and medical treatment (January – March, 2010)

Phase II: Mid-term shelter, protection and care (March, 2010 – present)

Phase III:  Assistance in Haiti reconstruction

  • Phase I:  Basic survival (COMPLETE)

In the initial weeks following the earthquake, tons of food and medical supplies, as well as hundreds of tents, were distributed by SOS in collaboration with other international nongovernmental organizations (INGOS) who were part of the Cluster on Child Protection.  We also took in hundreds more children without parental care and started work immediately on family reunification.

At that time the Haitian government gave SOS temporary custody of the 33 children who were being transferred illegally out of Haiti.  That incident positioned SOS in the middle of an international news story. Coverage on the Today Show, MSNBC, Anderson Cooper, Larry King, The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, and The Washington Post enabled SOS to address a key question:  what exactly happens to children who lose their parents in a natural disaster?  As experts in raising children without parental care, SOS was able to answer:  children are first registered and receive safe shelter.  Following that, efforts start to reunify families.  When reunification is not possible, more long-term options must be considered.

  • Phase II:  Protection and temporary care (IN PROGRESS)

We are now in the second phase of Haiti relief and coming to terms with the fact that our SOS Village has swelled to over 800 children who need love, food, clothing,  trauma and grief counseling, schooling and a sense of hope.  Conditions are overcrowded for meals, play and sleeping.  Tents on the ground predictably will create challenging conditions as the rainy season—and hurricane season—descend.  Therefore, SOS is now bringing to Haiti innovative polypropylene shelters that “pop up” quickly into sturdy, dry, lightweight houses that can last 3-5 years and withstand winds of well over 100mph.

By mid-June, each of these 100 shelters will house up to eight people in 242 square-foot individual family units.  Another 16 small shelters will be used as latrines and showers.  Many will likely be installed in the community as well as in the SOS Village.  SOS is also feeding an estimated 10,000 people a day through dozens of food distribution centers in the Port-au-Prince area.

SOS Children’s Vilages is working with major INGOs on child protection issues, including UNICEF, Save the Children, and World Vision.  We are also pursuing a collaboration with Partners In Health and its sister associations, Zanmi Lasante and Zanmi Beni.

  • Phase III:  Shelter and reconstruction

SOS intends to build new facilities when critical needs assessments have been completed.  This likely means  new schools, community centers, and perhaps the construction of a new village.

Each other…all they have left.


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06 July 2010 ~ Comments Off

Time for fun.

Can you hear yourself think over the cacophony of groans this morning? I’m not sure anyone can. After all, three days of fun and now it’s time to work. Who wouldn’t groan?

All those people who love what they do. They wouldn’t groan. Nor would those folks who have fun where they regardless of the circumstances. Of course, there’s a bunch of people who actually enjoy the 80% of their life spent at work.

To combat the cacophony of groans, I wanted to share this 9 minute video. You’ve probably seen it before. I’ve seen it a bunch of times. I think it’s worth watching today of all days.

Enjoy today. It’s the only one you’ll get.

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15 June 2010 ~ View Comments

One bad apple destroys a lot of days.

Do you ever get the feeling you’re trying to make apple pie out of rotten apples? No matter what you do, the apples are still rotten.

Of course, I spend a ton of time and energy negotiating with the rotten apples. Why do you have to be this way? How do we sort through this problem? Where do we find our win-win?

But, let’s face it.

The apples are rotten.

I don’t know why they are rotten. Maybe they were born that way.  Maybe I’m noticing something everyone has known for a long time. It’s quite possible the apples are only rotten for me. In fact, they will provide great service and benefit to a billion other people. But for me and my pies? They are rotten, unusable.

I’ve spent hours and hours and hours and hours and sleepless nights and hundreds of dollars and more sleepless nights trying to fix the pie made from one particular rotten apple.  Yes, the eventual product (or pie) has been good. But the process has been awful, truly awful.

A couple of days ago, I realized that the Internet is a big wide apple farm. There are a plethora of gorgeous, fresh and beautiful pie apples just waiting for me to use their services.

In the past, I would have spent days trying to figure out why oh why do I work so hard to make pie out of rotten apples.

Today, I’m learning to let go of what’s rotten, trust they will find their own solutions, and move on to find some better apples.

I’ll let you know how it works out.

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20 May 2010 ~ Comments Off

Peace Day in your neighborhood

Have you made your commitment to peace yet?

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11 May 2010 ~ View Comments

Why?

I saw this video yesterday and it knocked me sideways.

In the video, Simon Sinek presents a model for human behavior. According to Mr. Sinek, we are singularly motivated by the answer to:

“Why” we do what we do. “How” and “What” are simply reasons to justify the Why. He says this is how our minds are set up. The “why” comes from the deepest part of our brains.

This is revolutionary to me. I’ve almost completely stopped asking why questions. As a trauma therapist, the simple act of asking ‘why’ can lead to years and years and years of almost pointless chest beating ridiculousness. ‘Why’ is good for the therapist’s pocketbook, but not so great for a therapist’s sanity.

From the second person’s perspective, the victim’s perspective, there is no way to know the answer to almost any ‘why’ question. And in truth, we never know why things happen to us. They happen to us because they do.

But this is not about what happened to us. It’s a deeper why. It’s the why of belief, not a why of cause and effect.

Why do you do what you do?

When I watch Jamie Oliver, I see him fail over and over again. I see him go up against tremendous odds and fail and win and fail and win and fail again. And the jury is still out on whether his little program to change the small Virginia town was successful.

But Jamie hasn’t given up. In my opinion, the way he overcomes all that failure is that he knows why he’s doing what he’s doing. He believes it heart mind body and soul. (If you have another 20 minutes, here’s Jamie winning the Ted prize. You can see the why all over his body. His passion is almost intoxicating.)

I realized that if I can connect my goals with my inherent deepest reason I do what I do, I could be unstoppable. The question is:

What’s my ‘why’? Why do I do what I do??

That’s where I am today.

How about you?

Why do you do what you do?

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20 April 2010 ~ View Comments

A young boy changes our history.

Have you heard of this boy? 1.9 million years ago, a 9 year old boy was searching for water with his mother and fell into a cave. And just a few months ago, he was found by another 9 year old boy. This mother and son will change the way we think about our evolution.


Watch CBS News Videos Online

Amazing.

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06 April 2010 ~ Comments Off

Celia’s Puppies goes on Blog Tour this month!

Stop by any of the locations to win a book, see reviews of Celia’s Puppies and get the inside scoop on Denver Cereal

April 9, 2010 Cheap Therapy
April 11, 2010 A Grande Life
April 12, 2010 Tickled Pink Twice
April 13, 2010 Asha Butterflys
April 13, 2010 Nugglemama’s handful
April 14, 2010 Simply Stacie
April 16, 2010 Sweeps 4 bloggers
April 17, 2010 The Insane Writer
April 18, 2010 Bubble Boo
April 20, 2010 Mommyologist
April 20, 2010 But I had a coupon
April 21, 2010 Redhead Ranting
April 24, 2010 Original Coupon Coach
April 28, 2010 Crazy working mom
April 29, 2010 June Cleaver Nirvana
It should be fun!

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23 March 2010 ~ View Comments

Peace Day: I made the commitment, will you?

Will you join me on September 21 for an international day of peace?


This video is 9 minutes long – and worth every moment.

The idea that there might be peace, even for one day, on this planet makes me weep. I have wanted, longed for, prayed for world peace all of my life.

In the last 8 years, I’ve felt completely helpless and hopeless to do anything about peace. It seems like rampant hatred has taken over the world. There is only a glimmer of hope, but it is hope none the less. I don’t know if this will work. But hell, it’s worth a try.

I made a commitment to Peace Day here. I don’t know what specifically I will do, but I marked my calendar. Maybe we’ll come up with something cool online. I may even go kick a soccer ball around. I will do something.

If you’d like educational resources, you can find free resources here.

You can start by passing along this video. Let everyone know about Peace One Day. Make the commitment to peace, even if it’s simply peace in your heart, for one day a year.

Will you join me?

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