Comments on: Simply Kind Tuesdays : Week 38 : What does it take? http://on-a-limb.com/2009/07/simply-kind-tuesdays-week-38-what-does-it-take/ Fri, 03 Sep 2010 09:23:00 -0700 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc By: Capricorn Cringe http://on-a-limb.com/2009/07/simply-kind-tuesdays-week-38-what-does-it-take/comment-page-1/#comment-9150 Capricorn Cringe Fri, 31 Jul 2009 04:33:12 +0000 http://www.on-a-limb.com/?p=3404#comment-9150 All I have to do is stop being self-centered. Compassion is easy (because I don't have to be selfless to be compassionate). Real kindness? That can be hard. All I have to do is stop being self-centered.

Compassion is easy (because I don’t have to be selfless to be compassionate). Real kindness? That can be hard.

]]> By: Nan http://on-a-limb.com/2009/07/simply-kind-tuesdays-week-38-what-does-it-take/comment-page-1/#comment-9149 Nan Thu, 30 Jul 2009 16:56:01 +0000 http://www.on-a-limb.com/?p=3404#comment-9149 I found myself a bit confused by the question at first. Probably because I was thinking of it as a cause/effect situation. I think it only takes an awareness that, despite superficial details, we are all the same; with the same hopes, dreams, struggles, etc. I saw a plaque once (that I really wish now I had bought) which read, "Treat everyone as though their heart is broken, because it probably is." I think that only kindness can ensue from that. I found myself a bit confused by the question at first. Probably because I was thinking of it as a cause/effect situation. I think it only takes an awareness that, despite superficial details, we are all the same; with the same hopes, dreams, struggles, etc.

I saw a plaque once (that I really wish now I had bought) which read, “Treat everyone as though their heart is broken, because it probably is.” I think that only kindness can ensue from that.

]]> By: TC http://on-a-limb.com/2009/07/simply-kind-tuesdays-week-38-what-does-it-take/comment-page-1/#comment-9148 TC Wed, 29 Jul 2009 21:07:47 +0000 http://www.on-a-limb.com/?p=3404#comment-9148 My first thought was "to be treated fairly," but then I thought that's not what the question is asking. What does it take for me to be kind? It's a mindset. My first thought was “to be treated fairly,” but then I thought that’s not what the question is asking.

What does it take for me to be kind? It’s a mindset.

]]> By: On a limb with Claudia http://on-a-limb.com/2009/07/simply-kind-tuesdays-week-38-what-does-it-take/comment-page-1/#comment-9147 On a limb with Claudia Wed, 29 Jul 2009 16:16:08 +0000 http://www.on-a-limb.com/?p=3404#comment-9147 TWMark - Excellent point. We must recognize the opportunity first before we can act. Gosh, I've missed so many. Perpstu - I think that's an interesting boundary. Does everyone deserve our kindness? In some situations, maybe not. Then how do we reset to kindness when we're in the other mode? La Shae - That's a very good point - remembering that other's exist. I'm surprised sometimes how few people consider this. ME is so much more important than US Heart in SF - I wonder if kindness is always our native state. I think sometimes we are trained to be unkind, cruel as a way of proving how 'smart' we are. TWMark – Excellent point. We must recognize the opportunity first before we can act. Gosh, I’ve missed so many.

Perpstu – I think that’s an interesting boundary. Does everyone deserve our kindness? In some situations, maybe not. Then how do we reset to kindness when we’re in the other mode?

La Shae – That’s a very good point – remembering that other’s exist. I’m surprised sometimes how few people consider this. ME is so much more important than US

Heart in SF – I wonder if kindness is always our native state. I think sometimes we are trained to be unkind, cruel as a way of proving how ‘smart’ we are.

]]> By: heart in san francisco http://on-a-limb.com/2009/07/simply-kind-tuesdays-week-38-what-does-it-take/comment-page-1/#comment-9146 heart in san francisco Wed, 29 Jul 2009 04:02:25 +0000 http://www.on-a-limb.com/?p=3404#comment-9146 When I thought about this, I realized that it is really second nature to be kind. When I am UNkind, it is because something exceptional happened which pushed my buttons, and I always take notice. When I thought about this, I realized that it is really second nature to be kind. When I am UNkind, it is because something exceptional happened which pushed my buttons, and I always take notice.

]]> By: LaShae http://on-a-limb.com/2009/07/simply-kind-tuesdays-week-38-what-does-it-take/comment-page-1/#comment-9145 LaShae Wed, 29 Jul 2009 02:33:12 +0000 http://www.on-a-limb.com/?p=3404#comment-9145 It takes me continually being mindful that I share this space with everything else and my right to be here is no more and no less special then anything else's right to be here. It takes me continually being mindful that I share this space with everything else and my right to be here is no more and no less special then anything else’s right to be here.

]]> By: perpstu http://on-a-limb.com/2009/07/simply-kind-tuesdays-week-38-what-does-it-take/comment-page-1/#comment-9144 perpstu Tue, 28 Jul 2009 18:20:19 +0000 http://www.on-a-limb.com/?p=3404#comment-9144 Honesty. No matter what the situation is, if you are honest with me, I am far more likely to feel compasionate and kind towards your hardships than if I have been lied to or misled. I've had far too much of that this year. Honesty. No matter what the situation is, if you are honest with me, I am far more likely to feel compasionate and kind towards your hardships than if I have been lied to or misled.

I’ve had far too much of that this year.

]]> By: TWM http://on-a-limb.com/2009/07/simply-kind-tuesdays-week-38-what-does-it-take/comment-page-1/#comment-9143 TWM Tue, 28 Jul 2009 11:43:07 +0000 http://www.on-a-limb.com/?p=3404#comment-9143 An opportunity to present itself that I can recognize for what it is. An opportunity to present itself that I can recognize for what it is.

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